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DATING - Some Things to Consider



What is genuine "love" like? - 1 Corinthians 13



Genuine love ("commitment love"), contrasted with...

  1. LUST


What type of woman should a man desire for a wife?

The world stresses physical appearance, and often encourages men to evaluate women based on the appearance of their bodies. The world also encourages women to use their bodies to attract and influence men. The Bible gives a totally different perspective.



What does the Bible say about DATING?

Look up the word "dating" in the Bible. Can you find it?


Describe what the Bible says about...








Dating is not the only option! In fact, the concept of "dating" that many people practice (filled with lust and self-gratification) isn't ever a legitimate option for anybody!

If you do date...




What should a husband be like? What should a wife be like?
                   (Things to consider when looking for a spouse.)

Characteristics that husbands and wives should have

The following verses show us not only what we should look for in someone else, but they teach us what our own attitudes and actions should be. Both husband and wife need to follow God's standards, if they want a marriage that has the maximum satisfaction and fulfillment. If the relationship is "one-sided" - if only one of the spouses follows God's ways - there will be much less harmony in the marriage.

List some of the character traits and attitudes described in the following verses, which show the responsibilities of husband and wife to each other.



Colossians 3:19

Colossians 3:18

Ephesians 5:25-33

Ephesians 5:22-24, 33

1 Peter 3:7

1 Peter 3:1-6 (especially if the husband is not a follower of Jesus)

Note that, in the above instructions, the requirements for the husband and the wife are different. Other passages mention character qualities and obligations that apply equally to both husband and wife, as they interact with God, with other people (including themselves), with the world, etc. (Example: Both must have a loyalty to Christ that is greater than any loyalty they have to each other - Luke 14:26; Matthew 19:29.)

A look at Genesis 3:16

Genesis 3:16 gives us the foundational description of the relationship that will be present between husband and wife, because of the nature of male and female. This passage is not given as a command, but simply as a description of reality. When each spouse does his part (obeying the instructions examined in the previous section), this relationship will be harmonious and beneficial for both. If they don't follow the instructions found in the above verses, there will be ongoing hostility, manipulation, abuse and pain.


Dennis Hinks © 2005